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60 Ways to KeepYour
Husband,s LOVE |
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Behave like a female,
i.e. all the
tenderness of a
female–a man doesn’t
want a man for
his wife!
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Dress
pleasantly/attractively.
If you are a
home-maker, don’t stay
in your sleeping suit
all day.
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Smell good!
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Don’t lay out all your
problems on your
husband as soon as he
walks in. Give him a
little mental break.
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Don’t keep asking him,
“what are you
thinking?”
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Stop nagging non-stop
before Allah ta’ala
gives you something
really to complain
about.
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Absolutely no talking
about your spousal
problems to anyone you
meet, not even under
the pretense of
seeking help! If you
think you want to
solve legitimate
marital issues, then
go seek counseling
with the right person
who can give advice in
either:
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Mediate any injustice
done so any wrong can
be corrected and the
couple can reunite in
harmony, or
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Amicable divorce
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Be kind to your
mother-in-law the same
way you would like
your husband to be
kind to your own
mother.
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Learn all the rights
and obligations of
each other in
Islam. Focus on
fulfilling your
obligations, not
demanding your rights
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Race to the door when
he comes home, as if
you were waiting for
him. Smile and hug
him.
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Keep your house clean,
at least to the level
that he wants it.
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Compliment him on the
things you know he’s
not so confident about
(looks, intelligence,
etc.) This will build
his self-esteem.
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Tell him he’s the best
husband ever.
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Call his family often.
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Give him a simple task
to do at home and then
thank him when he does
it. This will
encourage him to do
more.
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When he’s talking
about something
boring, listen and nod
your head. Even ask
questions to make it
seem like you’re
interested.
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Encourage him to do
good deeds.
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If he’s in a bad mood,
give him some space.
He’ll get over it,
inshaAllah.
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Thank him sincerely
for providing you with
food and shelter. It’s
a big deal.
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If he’s angry with you
and starts yelling,
let him yell it out
while you’re quiet.
You will see your
fight will end a lot
faster. Then when he’s
calm, you can tell him
your side of the story
and how you want him
to change something.
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When you’re mad at
him, don’t say “YOU
make me furious”,
rather, “This action
makes me upset”.
Direct your anger to
the action and
circumstance rather
than at him.
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Remember that your
husband has feelings,
so take them into
consideration.
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Let him chill with his
friends without guilt,
especially if they’re
good guys. Encourage
him to go out, so he
doesn’t feel “cooped
up” at home.
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If your husband is
annoyed over a little
thing you do (and you
can control it), then
stop doing it. Really.
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Learn how to tell him
what you expect
without him having to
guess all the time.
Learn to communicate
your feelings.
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Don’t get mad over
small things. It’s not
worth it.
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Make jokes. If you’re
not naturally funny,
go on the internet and
read some jokes, and
then tell them to him.
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Tell him you’re the
best wife ever and
compliment yourself on
certain things you
know you’re good at.
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Learn to make his
favorite dish.
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Don’t ever, EVER talk
bad about him with
friends or family
unnecessarily. If they
end up agreeing with
you, you will see that
it hits you back in
the face because you
get more depressed
that you have a bad
husband–and other
people also think you
have a bad husband.
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Use your time wisely
and get things
accomplished. If
you’re a home-maker,
take online classes
and get active in your
community. This will
make you happy and a
secondary bonus is
that it impresses your
husband.
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Do all of the above
fee sabeelillah and
you will see Allah
putbarakah in
everything you do.
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Husband and wife
should discuss and
communicate with
wisdom with each other
to convey what they
like and dislike of
each other to do or
not to do. Do NOT give
commands or
instructions like he’s
your servant. “They
are garment to each
other” [Surah Baqarah,
2:187]
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Tell your husband you
love him, many, many
times. Aisha (رضالله
عنها) narrated that
the Prophet (صلي الله
عليه وسلم) used to ask
her how strong her
love for him, she said
like “a knot.” And the
next time he would ask
her, “How is that
knot?” He also used to
reply to her saying,
“Jazzakillah, O Aishah,
wallahi, you have not
rejoiced in me as I
have rejoiced in you.”
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Have a race with your
husband and let him
win, even if you are
much fitter and
stronger than him.
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Keep fit and take care
of your health so you
will remain a strong
mother, wife, cook and
housekeeper,
inshaAllah you will
not get FAT and
frumpy.
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Refine and cultivate
good mannerisms i.e do
not whine, don’t laugh
or talk too loud or
walk like an elephant.
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Do not leave the house
without his permission
and certainly not
without his knowledge.
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Make sure all his
clothes are clean and
pressed so he is
always looking fresh
and crisp.
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Don’t discuss
important/controversial
matters with him when
he is tired or sleepy.
Find right time for
right discussion.
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The way to a man’s
heart is through his
stomach.
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Always let him know
that you appreciate
him working and
bringing home the
“dough”. It makes it
easier for him to go
to work.
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Make sure you ALWAYS
have something for
dinner.
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Brush your hair,
everyday.
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Don’t forget to do
laundry.
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Surprise him with
gifts. Even
necessities, such as
new shoes, can be
gifts.
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Listen to him. (Even
when he talks about
extremely boring
things like basketball
or computers.)
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Try (hard as it might
be) to take interest
in his hobbies.
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Try not to go shopping
too much … and spend
all his money.
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Look attractive and be
seductive towards him.
Flirt with him.
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Learn tricks and
“techniques” to please
your husband in
intimacy. (Of course
goes both ways.)
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Prepare for special
evenings with him with
special dinner and
exclusive time (no
children permitted).
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Take care of your
skin, especially your
face. The face is
center of attraction.
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If you not satisfied
intimately, talk to
him and tell him. Help
him or provide
resources, don’t wait
until matters become
worse.
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Ask Allah to
strengthen and
preserve the bonds of
compassion and love
between the two of
you, every day, every
prayer. Ask him to
protect that bond
from Shaytaan. When a
lesser devil destroys
the love between
spouses, he is the
most beloved of
Shaytaan. Nothing
works like du’ah, and
love only exists
between spouses where
Allah instills it.
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Don’t EVER compare
your husbands to other
husbands! For example
don’t say, “well her
husband doesn’t do
that, why do you …” (thats
a killer!)
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Be happy with what you
have because no one is
perfect. If you want
perfection, wait until
you enter Jannah
together inshaAllah–and
of course, vice versa!
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Strive for Allah’s
love first and
foremost! if all wives
try to seek Allah’s
love and pleasure,
surely, they can keep
their husbands love
too. And remember–if
Allah loves you,
the angels will love
you, and the entire
creation will love
you.
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If you pack a lunch
for your husband to
take to work, from
time to time sneak in
a little love note or
sweet poem. If he
doesn’t take a lunch,
leave the note
somewhere else for him
to find, like in his
briefcase, or wallet
or on the car
steering-wheel
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Wake him up for Qiyam
ul-Layl (in the last
third of the night)
and ask him to pray
with you.
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